Love Dolls in Relationships – Yay or Nay?
- 18 Nov, 2019
Singlehood might be very enjoyable to some people – perhaps for those who aspire to own a harem full of love dolls. However, as a social being, when it comes to something like real relationship, choosing a proper life partner can be tedious. Will they share the same taste in music and food as you? Do you want them to? Would they like to sleep separately or hot and messy and cuddly, all night long? Will they comply with all your sexual fantasies like a sex doll? Will they turn clingy as a fishhook, even after you both agreed for a one-night stand?
The human psyche is a weird place to indulge yourself in, and I have no harm in saying that women tend to have a tad bit more complicated psychological structure than men do, being a woman myself. And those complications especially related to one’s sexual need can be a bit too heavy to bear at times. Would it really be that much of an issue to have a resolution handy for times like these? Here is where the subject of owning real life sex dolls walks in.
See? It’s an object. Unlike a complete human being, be it your wife or girlfriend, you can own it. Just as we own vibrators or a shelf-full of erotica, carefully assorted to cater to our me time. But as I’ve seen through the perspectives of less-adventurous friends of mine, owning something (not somebody) purely for self-containment purpose while being in a serious (or not so serious) relationship can pose to be a big problem for either party. Queuing that, let’s focus on a bit more realistic sides of the said case scenario – accumulated from personal and public experience.
- Using a Love Doll while being in a relationship is cheating.
Have you ever tried to spice up the sexual part of your relationship? Bondage, Swings, Vibrators, Food – anything to accessorize and glow up your bedroom with? Well, the lifelike sex doll is just one of such objects. It will retain the status you give it – not the other way around. And When it comes to cheating, the theory is complicated itself – do you consider it cheating if your partner thinks about someone else – not only in the bedroom but throughout the relationship? Let’s move on to a more complicated example now; a certain Korean man married an anime character. Have you ever heard of Sologamy? It’s a term used to describe a person who marries himself/herself. Would it be cheating, had they chosen to fall in love with somebody other than the mirror? Relationships, like any other human interaction, is perspective. What you believe in doesn’t necessarily have to be a universal truth – but that doesn’t make it void of any value, either. The most important thing is what matters to you – and your partner, in this case. If introducing a Love Doll into your relationship might turn up the night by a notch or two – let the rest of the world go to hell.
Verdict: Yay to spice, Nay to the opinion.
- Love Dolls can replace my partner.
I’ve seen over-possessive men driving themselves to the brink of insecurity when their wife got pregnant – the idea of welcoming a new person in their lives, no matter the relation, comes off as too scary as it involves sharing their partner and the time they had full ownership of, previously. Some claims are just baseless. Some can be reasonable, though – like when your wife spends an extra 4 hours working at the office, right on the day you planned out an intimate dinner session. Nobody’s wrong from their point of view – just a little bit of preplanning and less thinking, more sharing could’ve made the situation otherwise. The same goes for Love Dolls – it’s as relevant as the bedsheet stacked up in your wardrobe for three months. When, and why and how will it be used – it’s all up to you. Now if you choose to use that bedsheet to build a cloth doll and call it your husband/wife – nobody can help you.
Verdict: Yay to the bonding, Nay to the importance.
- TPE sex dollscan ruin even the most solid relationships.
Small, simple, uncomplicated things like alcohol and drug addiction (pun intended) or a minor change in tone have led to the breaking up of couples who have been together for two decades or longer. The secret to having a good relationship with somebody is to always be ready for whatever comes – be it heaven or hell, you must remember it’s all worth it. If it’s not – you’ve been traveling the wrong road. More than that, who wouldn’t love to see their partner turning into a sex-lord without extra effort (ahem) of having sex with multitudes of people? You can have it all – minus the heartbreak and worries, with a Love Doll.
Verdict: Lol to the idea, Nay to the complication.
- Lifelike sex dollscan change my perception of reality.
It depends on how you perceive reality at the current stage. Is it a red coloured rosy world out there? Or is it full of thorns and scars, for your eyes? People have known to fall in love with many things throughout history – Narcissus with his own reflection, Oedipus with his mom, Electra with her dad…Pygmalion, with a sculpture that he sculpted himself. One should not be judged upon the choice they make for themselves. I have lived with a Love Doll as a company with my human partner for five years – that did not make us feel any less human, neither did it affect our capability of socializing. If you’re one of those people who likes to overshare and does not take the reaction with an open mind – then, and only then, this might be a wrong choice for you to make.
Verdict: Yay to the reality, Nay to the perception.
- Love Dolls are not good for health.
People all around the world have a slightly different opinion about this matter – mind you, these are the people who use love dolls in real life. Be it couples, singles, playboys and elderlies – everybody said that they have either shown or seen a significant improvement after spending time with a love doll; this is especially effective for people suffering from social anxiety, as opening up to a non-living thing can be much less stressful. This has been effectively proved by the popularity of sex doll harems around the world. If you’re thinking of buying a Love Doll only for a sexual purpose, think about the safety it’ll arrive with – no STDs, no emotional wreckage management, no expensive dates – not even a room! They need nothing. They almost give you everything you can be looking for in a partner, what with the newer versions with added features of AI interactions and all. Confidence, composure, control over your emotions – a sex robot can be your practice board, your bed mate, or even someone to cuddle with – throughout all your highs and lows. An elderly man has one of the finest collections of Love Dolls – and guess what? He treats them like his companions, dines with them, talks with them and explains how the dolls have influenced his emotional wellbeing after the death of his wife! Does that make him a pervert? A Japanese couple who live with their TPE dolls and even take them for shopping etc, are always looked with a curious little flash of surprise. Has it affected poorly on their 40 years of married life? Nope, again. Are they happy? Yes. And that’s the only thing that should matter to you too.
Verdict: Yay to mindfulness, Nay to the misconception.
I’ve been in multiple relationships, and each ended up with a scar left behind – physical and psychological abuse, jealousy, possessiveness… As a matter of fact, I ordered my love doll while being cooped up in a house for 6 months – and it was the reason why I got free from that captivity, too! My ex-boyfriend couldn’t digest the fact that I could choose somebody (even if it’s a damn toy) over him – giving me the much-needed closure I’d been begging for throughout the relationship. Marissa (my Love Doll) is still with me – as a sign of company, as a sign of survival, and she never failed to make my husband’s or my own life a lot funnier than it could’ve ever been before. I introduced her to him on our third date, and he was as much excited about the idea of trying something new as I was with the idea of having a third hand to help without the added emotional drama. And five years later – here we are, Rockin’ and Rollin’ through the waves of life! It was a risk I was glad to take. And I took it alright.!
Happy Lovemaking, y’all. 😉